It seems like a no-brainer: having sex makes people happy. Psychology studies on happiness have consistently found that of all the activities we do in our daily lives, from shopping to cooking to surfing the internet, people are happiest when they’re having sex. A recent study found that having sex scored number-one not only as the happiest activity we partake in, but also the most pleasurable, meaningful, and engaging activity in our daily lives.
However, due to the physical and mental toll of our busy and stressful lives, it can be hard to fit sex into our schedules. Many couples wish they were having more sex. So, here at Kindara we were curious: how can we make it easier on ourselves to make time for sex? Are there certain days of the week when everything just falls perfectly into place? How about a certain time of year?
We decided to look at our data to answer these questions. Here are some brand new findings about sex pulled from 1.5 million anonymous data points entered by Kindara users over the last 22 months.
Step 1: Plan more vacations and family time.
If your New Year’s Resolution is to make time for more sex with your partner, it may be time to start now. Dedicating time away from work creates ample opportunity to relax and spend time with your significant other. People have significantly more sex during the winter holidays. From Christmas to New Years and Valentine’s Day, these holidays are characterized by frequent sex. Valentine’s Day has the highest frequency of sex, while the holiday season has a higher overall volume of sex compared to the rest of the year. Sounds like a great way to keep warm, right?
Other holidays throughout the year provide a break from work and time to spend with our loved ones. For many of us, this involves enjoying the company of our partners in one of the best ways we know how. Three day weekends are also popular occasions to have sex. Planning more vacations and working less could be just the thing you and your partner need to make time for sex. If you’re trying to conceive, tracking your cycle with the Fertility Awareness Method can help you plan vacations for the fertile time of month.
Step 2: Schedule dates with your partner on Sunday.
It is clear that work is bad for libido: frequency of sex drops significantly during weekdays. We expected to find that either Friday or Saturday would be the best day for sex, but as it turns out, Sunday is the sexiest day of the week. So, what makes Sunday such a fun day? We have a few theories. By Sunday, it appears that many of us have finally decompressed from the long week of work. Sundays may also be less scheduled than other days, leaving more time to wrestle between the sheets. If you want to make time for sex in your schedule, plan long stretches of uninterrupted time on Sundays with your sweetheart.
Step 3: Plan more dates for the week following menstruation.
The sexiest time of the cycle is the first week after menstruation. Miranda Grey, author of The Optimized Woman, calls this "The Dynamic Phase," when women are more independent and more willing to take risks. Our data suggests a higher libido during this phase as well.
We also saw an interesting dip in sexual activity during peak levels of fertility for women who do not wish to conceive. Why? Nothing kills the mood quite like a nagging worry about unintended pregnancy. Some users may abstain from sex rather than use barrier methods during their peak fertile period to further reduce the chance of unintended pregnancy. Of course, for women who are trying to get pregnant, the best time to have sex for conception will depend on your cervical fluid pattern. You can read more about timing sex to maximize your chances of conception here.
It may not sound sexy at first, but scheduling sex can be an enormous boon to your intimate life. Putting sex on the agenda makes it a priority, builds anticipation, and ensures that intimate time doesn't get lost in the rest your busy schedules. Sex is important for connection, romance, and intimacy. Building our schedules with sex in mind can make it easier to us to live happy lives with satisfying relationships.
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