Women are not that interested in sex. Sex causes women to form deep emotional connections with their partner. Compared to men, women have few orgasms.
You’ve probably heard these cliches before. Many stereotypes about women and sex are rooted in outdated gender roles, but is there any truth behind them?
To set the record straight, we asked the women of our community to answer questions about their sexual experiences. We learned that some stereotypes about women and sex were confirmed, while others were contradicted by our findings.
Yes, women cherish emotional connection. In fact, 53.2% of women agree that the number one most important aspect of good sex is emotional connection, even above foreplay. Studies show that women’s most satisfying sexual experiences involve being connected to someone, not simply achieving orgasm.
Women want more sex. Of the women we surveyed, 53.2% do not have sex as often as they would like to. Nearly three quarters of survey respondents would like to engage in sexual activity more than three times per week. 13% of our survey respondents would like to engage in sexual activity more than even six times per week.
Most women orgasm during each sexual encounter - many do so more than once. While we didn’t ask men how frequently they achieve orgasm, we did learn that 48.8% of women report orgasming at least once or even multiple times during each sexual encounter. You go, ladies! Many other women report having orgasms often, but not every time they engage in sexual activity. And hey, sometimes orgasm isn’t the primary goal of sexual activity.
A 1994 survey reported that 75% of men and 29% of women always have orgasms with their partner. Our findings indicate that in the twenty years since that study was conducted, more women are achieving orgasm during each sexual encounter. This positive change could indicate more equality in giving and receiving pleasure beneath the sheets.
Many factors can negatively impact a woman’s libido. One commonly held stereotype is that women are rarely in the mood for sex. As it turns out, 82% of the women we surveyed said there are factors that have negatively affected their sex life for periods of time. Of the factors, women were most likely to report that stress negatively influenced their sex life, followed by not being in the mood at the same time as their partner.
Sexual interactions with one’s partner can be complicated by numerous factors, as shown by the 15.4% of women who responded that “other” factors that have negatively influenced their sex lives. These other factors included being in a long distance relationship, taking medication that decreases one’s sex drive or ability to reach orgasm, and recovering from trauma.
We’ve made a lot of progress towards breaking down outdated stereotypes about women’s sexual experiences. You can share your thoughts by commenting below!
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Kindara Survey, 2015.